Guys, give us a closer look.

A man once told me that one of the deciding factors whether he would continue to pursue a woman to be his life partner is how she behaves during the time of courtship or dating. He added that the way she behaves or responds to him could be the same way she has been responding to her previous encounters of the opposite sex.

WOW! I was absolutely blown off by hurricane Katrina! Do men really judge us this way as a person during the early stage of 'getting-to-know-you'?

Before I continue, I must caution you that my views do not represent any group of females' point of view but  is my sole opinion on the matter.

He has a point. I myself follow a certain type of pattern on how I respond to men while dating although my response would vary depending on my degree of “liking” the guy. Do I see him as a potential friend, boyfriend, partner, or just any other guy to go out for a movie?

The woman in me rebelled at this notion! What if the right man would come into my life at the wrong time? Gals, would you agree with me that women can be quite emotional and dramatic at how we respond to stress, change, and relationships? Am I expected to be at my best all the time?

To the same guy, I would react differently as to how I am from within. Just in case, just-in-case, Mr. Right comes into my life at the time when I am most vulnerable- when I am at my lowest point, when I just lost a family member, broke off with a boyfriend, or put on 10kgs more for some random reasons. In the same way, Mr. Wrong would come into my life when I am at the peak of my career, when I have won Ms. Universe or just had a life-changing-180-degree- turn of positivity. Am I to be judged and say boohoo! Tough luck! Right-love-at-the-wrong-time?

When I am at the lowest point then I would be the most vulnerable person on earth. The slightest sign of attention and care can be in my eyes expression of unconditional love. Therefore I would be a gullible lass and can be a victim of men’s’ innuendoes. Then he will judge me - EASY. In the other way, if I would be in seventh-heaven then a man’s imperfections will be the least of my worries because for me, everything in my sight is bright and happy.

Does this sound familiar? Guy meets girl, guy was perfect, and girl was (at the moment) a disaster. Guy shows attention and care and Girl opens up her life and feelings. Guy thinks she’s easy. Girl was disappointed.

I don’t know. I must admit it is much easier for me to decipher a woman, obviously because we speak the same language. I can easily tell if she is at her best or not. Are men capable of seeing this? How many men out there would actually take a closer look at who we really are as a person and not only on how we respond to dating?

Who says only women are complicated? Who says only women misjudge men? Who says women play with men’s feelings, make them pursue to have the pleasure of turning them down?

Well, who has the answers? I don’t. Though I just shrug my shoulders because I know the best is yet to come!

What’s with Women and their Bags, anyway?

I remember sometime ago I was rushing to get ready on a weekend night. My partner was already 20 minutes patiently (I hoped so) waiting for me below my building. After half of my closet was piled up on top of my bed, make-up scattered on my dresser, shoes and accessories everywhere; I climbed on a stool to reach for that black purse which I imagined would fit into my outfit.

10 minutes later I was with my boyfriend gasping for breath and gave him the sweetest smile and complimenting him for PATIENTLY waiting for me for half an hour. Oh men, they can be such darlings. Hahaha

Everything was great until I uttered my excuse. “Sorry honey, I just couldn’t find my black bag.” Then he said, “Oh, so for half an hour you were looking for your handbag? You could have just gone down without it.” I’m not quite sure if it was me, the statement, the sarcastic tone or just pure nonsense that it irked me in a way. Something just didn’t sound right.

Ladies, take a good look at your closet. How many bags do you have? To be more specific, how many black handbags do you have?

A black bag needs to go with black shoes or black belt. But we would need a different bag for shopping, office, party or even just to go and buy groceries. Guys, this is my simple, black and white explanation why a woman cannot have enough bags in her wardrobe.

A woman’s basic wardrobe consists not only of clothes but with matching accessories, shoes, bags and make-up. A woman of style has to carefully match her accessories, shoes and bag to what she is wearing. They MUST complement each other in a way that she does not look like a walking Christmas tree. I mean ladies, you know what I mean. Fashion sense people!

Ladies, it is our responsibility to remind our partners and in turn, men should remember that when you first laid eyes on us – it was not our “inner beauty” that attracted you to us. It might sound harsh but guys neither look at girls nor approach them if they look funny or weird.

Maybe for you guys, I don’t make any sense. But to a woman, a bag is part of the dress; it complements the outfit and augments our beauty. Because it is with our physical beauty that has gotten you attracted to us, but it is with our inner beauty that made you loved us.

That night, I reminded my boyfriend the first time we met; he couldn’t take his eyes off me. It was not only my smile, my charming personality but it was the total package. And that included the dress, the accessories, the shoes and of course THE BAG.

…because of the bag, my man bagged me up! LOLZ